If you are angry, stamp your feet
My youngest is not speaking to me at the moment though she is leaving notes .
She wants an apology for some offense she sees as grievous . I don't understand what my actual offense is supposed to have been and am disinclined to apologize. She wants an apology that she will decide is enough. I won't play that game.
Perhaps she will never speak again.
Arguments and hurt feelings are such strange things . Some people collect them .
My great Grandmother could recite a huge litany of offenses by the British against the Scots. Now all these offenses occurred centuries before she was born, but she still refused to her dying day to knowingly consume Campbell's' Soups because (she said) the Campbells were traitors to the Scots.
My first spouse loved to argue it was his passion he'd get all rilled up about something and sulk and storm for days. It took me awhile to realize that he was not actually trying to make a point or resolve a problem He just LOVED a fight. My current husband will occasionally blow up about something but usually he's over it in about 5 minutes. With him it is about an exchange of information, he does not even want a "win" .
I had some acquaintances who complained about their mother for 30 years they all constantly argued with her or went through long periods of not speaking to each other. They obsessed about which child she favored or broken promises or bad hair days .
Their whole damn lives and all they could talk about was the "bad" mommy and how they wanted nothing to do with her though they never refused money and often called on her to bail them out .
The mother died last year. the kids were apparently devastated, sobbing hysterically at the funeral, trying to throw themselves into the grave etc. never mind that they had not spoken to her for over a year. Their grief was soon replaced by fury when it turned out that she had not left them her money. One child cried out "That bitch has destroyed my last chance for happiness" .
Here is a 50 some year old woman who has spent her whole life so far focused on being pissed off at her Mom and who still thinks other people and their money have any power over anyone else happiness. Happiness is a do it yourself project . If you want to be happy find out what makes you happy and do it.
I' don't think I have a bad temper. I almost never really lose my temper. I have noticed that whenever I start to get well just a teeny tiny bit irritated that most folks will back away from me and seem to presume that I'm about to tear them to pieces or something. Apparently its my expression which I've never seen, not have ever lost my temper while looking in a mirror